Real change comes from within. Forced change is either transient or breeds resentment. It is more fruitful for change to come from introspection than from dictation. This principle is true whether it refers to psychotherapy or authentic spirituality.
Believers fail to see how often they imitate the Scribes and Elders in the gospel (Mk. 11:27-33). A person does not change because one goes to Church or reads the Bible. It comes from a Spirit-driven desire in the heart to grow and do better.
Lord Jesus, Your desire for our salvation led to Your crucifixion. Give us new hearts, so that our desire to be effective disciples may culminate in lives that confirm our growth. Amen.